Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Recruiting Males to Higher Education Through A Strength Based-Positive Masculinity Perspective Part I


The late Mr. Nelson Mandela once said, “Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” What a powerful deposition? Being a higher education professional myself, I am biased towards such a statement. I do agree with Mr. Mandela on the power and importance of education. Therefore, continuing education through higher education is important for citizens of the United States. In fact, Margaret Spelling who served as the United States Secretary of Education (2005-2009) once said, “Higher education is confronting challenges, like the economy is, about the need for a higher number of more adequately trained, more highly educated citizenry.”
 
Such a statement validates the importance that education, especially higher education, has in society. Ultimately, if higher education were not important, then higher education would not have began with Harvard University in 1636 and multiplied into 4,495 degree-granting institutions by 2010 (United States Department of Education, National Center for Educational Statistics, 2012).
In the beginning months of the blog site for ACPA Standing Committee for Men and Masculinities I submitted a blog titled Mentoring College Men to Close the Gender Gap: An Interdepartmental Approach for A Small Regional Campus, which can be found at http://acpascmm.blogspot.com/2013/08/mentoring-college-men-to-close-gender.html. It is clear through scholarship and research that there continues to be a definite gender gap in regards to college enrollment, academic performance, and college graduation between women and men.
 
My primary responsibility for Western Kentucky University’s Glasgow Campus is to recruit students. This has put me on the frontline of interacting with prospective students. My experience bolsters research and publications that explore the gender gap that exists in academics. While meeting and having conversations with prospective students, female students tend to be more interested in pursuing higher education (specifically a four-year degree).
 
My involvement in the ACPA Standing Committee for Men and Masculinities has developed an interest to do more to excite men of rural Kentucky to attend an institution for higher education. The obstacles that males in rural Kentucky face are plentiful. Such obstacles include socio-economic status, lack of resources, role models, culture, gender roles, home life, peer influence, etc.
 
Ultimately, higher education is important and continues to be important in society. While I am not under the belief that every male in the United States must enroll at an institution of higher education, I do believe that males should be enrolling in equal amounts as females. So, this begs the question: How can one best recruit men to higher education?
 
One way of bettering recruiting efforts towards men (specifically from rural areas) is through a positive psychology/positive masculinity model (PPPM) as a strength- based approach. People are familiar with the maladaptive aspects of males such as violence, competition, and aggression (Englar-Carlson and Kiselica, 2013, p. 402).  However, there are many redeeming qualities that males exhibit that are positive, healthy, and admirable forms of masculinity.
 
“Positive masculinity is about changing the dialogue to what men can strive for that transcends the sexist socialization they have experienced. Many men remain confused about who they are or who they should become in terms of gender roles. Therefore, positive-healthy masculinity can be a vehicle to mediate the essentialist and destructive stereotypes that cause much unnecessary suffering for men, women, and children,” (Englar-Carlson and Kiselica, 2013, p. 401). 
 
Essentially, the PPPM approach can be utilized in recruitment efforts by incorporating male strengths into dialogue about higher education. With less male students enrolling to college (specifically males from rural areas), I see the PPPM approach as a means to get behind the masculine stereotypes to show prospective males students the opportunities that can be had through higher education by expounding upon strengths.
 
This approach can provide an opportunity to challenge men who may lack purpose or direction in life (Englar-Carlson and Kiselica, 2013, p. 403).  Englar-Carlson and Kiselica (2013) suggests that using this approach consists of affirming and building upon male strengths in the following ways (p. 404-405):
1. Male ways of relating.  Recognize that boys and men, especially traditional males, tend to form fiiendships by engaging in activities that have a high action orientation, such as playing a game of basketball or working on a project together.

2. Generative fatherhood.  This refers to the way adult men care for the next generation by responding in a consistent way to the needs of children over time. For example, loving fathers stimulate the physical development of their children through rigorous play, promote the autonomy and socialized behavior of their children through the teaching of values and rules and the application of consistent authoritative discipline, and foster their children's cognitive development through various forms of intellectual stimulation. Older men, especially when they are in the role of grandfather, express their love by offering their wisdom and support to younger generations.

3. Male ways of caring.  Many men are socialized to protect their loved ones, to fix things around the house, and to offer solutions to others when they are faced with a problem.

4. Male self-reliance.  Western male socialization often teaches boys and men to use their own resources to solve problems and handle difficult situations. Psychologically healthy men enhance the expectation to be self-reliant with a consideration of the advice and assistance of others to address life's challenges.

5. The worker-provider tradition.  Being a worker and a provider is often a cultural expectation and a source of pride and fulfillment for many men.

6. Male daring, courage, and risk taking.  Healthy men express their courage by taking risks without being reckless. At times, they may be called upon to face peril for the sake of completing a task or protecting a loved one.

7. The group orientation of men.  Many men, across cultural groups, have learned to socialize and work in groups, such as athletic teams, fraternities, and military units.

8. Male humanitarian service organizations.  Throughout the history of the United States, numerous humanitarian organizations began as organizations of men dedicated to serving others, such as the Loyal Order of the Moose and the Lions Club International. Counselors should honor their male clients who participate in such organizations and help other male clients who are seeking positive companionship in their lives to explore and join male humanitarian groups.

9. Male humor.  Men tend to use humor as a way to diffuse tension, express affection, and find escape from their worries.

10. Male heroism.  Men look for and learn from their heroes, who represent a broad spectrum, from some of the great figures in history, to athletic stars, to everyday decent men.

Of course, this counseling approach is just conceptual in the realm of higher education and recruiting. More over, the decision of attending an institution of higher education is eclectic in regards to variables. However, I am curious to apply most (if not all) of the male strengths listed above in recruiting male students to an institution of higher education. This can be done through dialogue and engagement with prospective male students. Ultimately, the purpose of using such a model is to surpass barriers that exist due to negative aspects of masculinity to help encourage males to pursue higher education.

 

This is part one of a post. In the sequel to this blog post, I will share my experience in using the PPPM approach to recruiting male students to an institution of higher education.

Englar-Carlson, M. and Kiselica, M.S. (2013). Affirming the strengths in men: A positive masculinity approach to assisting male clients. Journal of Counseling & Development, 91. 399-409.

National Center for Education Statistics (2012). Fast Facts. Retrieved from http://nces.ed.gov/fastfacts/display.asp?id=84

Monday, January 13, 2014

Education of Masculinities Through Video Games




“BOOM, headshot!” can be heard echoing down the hallways of many homes, residential halls, and apartments complexes as adolescents and emerging adults go on a virtual shooting rampage with their friends in the latest video game to be released. While this may sounds terrifying to some, the reality is, it is happening. It’s no secret that that these games are now a common everyday activity that many men participate in. In a week, men play an average of about 13 hours of video games (Kimmel, 2008). Our new generation of students has always had technology in their lives, and it’s important to remember from here on out, they always will. Video games are beginning to fall to the front and center of the media as one of these technologies, but the question is, for better or worse? Blamed for escalation of violence in our youth, video games have been a defining influence in many of our students today (Kimmel, 2008). I urge our current and future educators to not focus their energy on stopping this industry, but instead to focus their aim on helping men understand their own development of masculinities.
            It is important to first recognize what values and societal expectations are being portrayed within these games. Think of a video game character. Odds are the character that you just thought of, was a heroic male. This is because predominantly male characters are the stars of the game. Let’s take Mario for example. Mario is the well-known plumber who has set off from the ‘Mushroom Kingdom’ to save the princess from Bowser, the main antagonist of the series, no matter what obstacle stands in his way (McLaughlin, 2010). It is in this way that gamers from a young age get an idea of what it means to be a man. The notion that they are expected to be brave and self-sacrificing is strongly emphasized within these games and throughout all media as a whole. Because of this, there is an unspoken expectation within society for men to take on these roles. This can be particularly stressful for men who are not yet ready to be a leader, but feel the pressure to step up.
            It seems now that every hero needs his “damsel in distress.” It is very common that games have females who portray this role. Thus, women are projected as objects of desire for men to seek out. Objectification of women through these games gives some men the sense that they are superior and creates a false sense of what women want from a guy and perpetuates the assumption that all men identify as heterosexual. Men’s perceptions become skewed and what they expect is not always what they get in real life. Family Guy, a popular cartoon targeted at young adults, depicts this discrepancy in a brief clip using the popularMario character discussed before.  Beyond this, woman are often used as sex symbols for men. Perfect slim, hourglass shaped bodies, large breasts, and a flirtatious personality are all the essentials of a well-liked female character. Often a side character, these females usually have clothes that show off their sex appeal.  These images become ingrained in many men’s mind as what women should look like. Though often unrealistic, it is no secret that sex sells. With men as the primary consumer, there is little chance that these depictions are changing anytime soon. 

             Another expectation that is portrayed in video games is that men become super macho killing machines. Popular games, such as Gears of War and Halo, have an emphasis on strong male protagonists with game play focused content of shooting and killing the “bad guys” with a variety of violent weapons. What draws men to these games? Power. Power is the value that is being illustrated in these games (Kimmel, 2008). What feels more powerful then picking up a rocket launcher and firing it at a crowd of enemy monsters? The answer is, probably not a whole lot. In real life, many of these men perceive that they have very little power or control over where they are or what they are doing in their lives (Kimmel, 2008). Thus, the video game becomes an outlet for them to feel the power and control they are missing in their own lives.  While this is probably not the reason for violent behavior itself, the fact remains that these games help construct a fictional reality of what it means to be man. 
            Who are these “guys” anyways? The way we describe them makes them sound like sex crazed, ruthless monsters. It might be surprising to find out that these killing machines are the stunning good-looking men featured here.

Looks are everything these days. Almost all the heroes of these stories are physically perfect. Being athletic, muscular, having six pack abs, and stunning smile are all the must haves of a lead character. But what does this image of an overly perfect body mean for the development of our youth. Studies have shown that men have similar body issues as females, but in different ways. Men seek the muscular physique that is so openly displayed in these games (Harper and Harris, 2010). Many underweight men view themselves as less desirable, felt as though they were more likely to be rejected, and were often found to be lonelier  (Harper and Harris, 2010). We must recognize that body issues are become increasingly prevalent in men, and video games are just one of the many media outlets that contribute to this type of thinking.
            Video games are evolving and rather then working against them, we, as college student educators, should be working with them. It will be impossible to instantly change the culture of the gaming industry, but it is not impossible to change the way men critically think about their own identity in relation to the games they are playing. I suggest 3 simple steps that will engage guys in their own development of masculinities through video games.
1.      Relate and understand the games that they are playing. Nothing is more off putting then someone trying to make a point on a subject matter they don’t know well. Take time to ask questions or independently research popular games, so that you can discuss things on their level. Knowing the details makes you more relatable and opens the lines of communication. If they start talking about something you don’t know, ask them to explain.  This places you in their playing field.
2.      Facilitate a discussion with them. Find out how they view the character’s roles, the story, and what they enjoy about it. This is a time for them to teach you about the game on a personal level.  Give them time to talk. Just through them talking alone they may pick up on some of the stereotypes and stigmas that are hidden throughout games. This will allow them to personally reflect on their own thoughts and opinions.
3.      Educate them about how you perceive characters and aspects of the game, and take some time to point things out that you see things differently. Get them actively engaged in the conversation, and have them discuss how they see things differently. The age of an individual is a major factor in the amount influence a game can have. Because of this, it is important to discuss how different ages may warrant different conversations.
            There is no way that, as an educator, you will be able to teach every guy everything you want to about this topic and completely open their eyes to everything that is being ingrained in their minds. But we can slowly make change if we try and engage these men in critically analyzing what they are being exposed to. As they set their aim on other players, we should be taking our best shot at getting them proactive at recognizing the depiction of masculinities in these games.
 



Kyle McAuliffe is currently an Academic Support Coordinator at the University of Maine for the Department of Residence Life.  After receiving his BA in Psychology at the University of Maine, he decided to return for graduate school in the Master’s program in Student Development in Higher Education.

References
Harper, S. R. & Harris F. III (2010). College men and masculinities: Theory, research, and implications for practice. San Francisco, CA: Jossey-Bass.
Kimmel, M. (2008).  Guyland: The perilous world where boys become men.  New York, NY:
            Harper.
McLaughlin, R. (2010). IGN persents the history of Super Mario Bros. It’s-a Mario! A look back on the greatest franchise in gaming. Retrieved from http://www.ign.com/articles/2010/09/14/ign-presents-the-history-of-super-mario-bros?page=1
YSAFE. (2013). Retrieved from http://iheartbeingagirl.blogspot.com.es/2013/03/why-so-many-
            videogame-characters-look_19.html
 

Monday, January 6, 2014

Masculinity’s Impact on Fraternity Brotherhood



“I believe in Theta Chi, its traditions and its ideals. Born of sturdy manhood, nurtured by resolute men... It inspires true friendship…” – Excerpt from the creed of Theta Chi Fraternity. 

            When most people hear the above quote, they might let their minds wander to the place of “fratland,” where jocks thrive, shirts never possess sleeves, and men do nothing but chug beer and berate women.  Let’s take a few steps back.  On December 5, 1776, the first Greek letter society emerged at the College of William and Mary in Williamsburg, Virginia (History & Traditions, n.d.).  Phi Beta Kappa was founded by five students and introduced the early stages of fraternal values: an oath of secrecy, a badge, mottoes in both Latin and Greek, a code of laws, and an elaborate initiation ritual (Phi Beta Kappa, n.d.). Fraternities have existed ever since, and are built on a system of values designed to enrich a man’s collegiate experience, provide leadership skills, and offer brotherhood to its members.  Membership in fraternities is considered lifelong, where members are encouraged to stay involved and connected with their brothers for a lifetime.  Some could argue that a social construct of masculinity shapes the way fraternity men interact and connect with one another.  How does this affect the brotherhood that these organizations were founded on?
            First things first, I don’t want to categorize, make assumptions, or make any sweeping generalizations about fraternities.  The truth is, most fraternities really do pride themselves on their brotherhood.  Additionally, I’m sure that the majority of men make meaningful relationships with the other members of their organization that last well beyond their collegiate years.  But the fact of the matter is, masculinity today creates a huge stressor on fraternity men to behave, speak, and interact in certain ways. We see masculinity in many different forms in college-aged males.  Michael Kimmel (2008) talks about the “initiation” into manhood in his book Guyland as being characterized by excessive drinking, lying about sexual partners, and lots of locker room talk (Kimmel, 2008).  We all have our own opinions of what masculinity looks like: typically the answers revolve around an inherent lack of emotion, stubbornness, dominating the situation, never acting like a “girl;” the list goes on.  But is any of this necessarily positive?  In speaking with Lucas Schalewski, a residence life professional at Indiana University who has studied college men and masculinity, described positive masculinity as great personality traits that he believes to be important: courage, loyalty, leadership, kindness, inclusivity, vision, and strength (L. Schalewski, personal communication, September 12, 2013).  But what he sees on his campus falls far short from a vision of positive masculinity. 
            Baird’s Manual of American College Fraternities, a handbook published in 1879, has the motto “the fraternity makes men,” (as cited in Yeung, Stombler & Wharton, 2010).  Perhaps one of the largest groups of “victims” of this masculinity battle are fraternity men.  I see it every day on my campus at the University of Maine.  Men feel the pressures from men in other fraternities, men in their own organization, and even sorority women, to be the perfect picture of a fraternity man: smart, athletic, charismatic, and career-focused.  Fraternity men have an especially vigorous demand placed on them to be the epitome of masculinity.  Unfortunately, some of these demands of living up to a masculine façade can have a negative impact on living out values and promoting brotherhood.  Let’s face it: some members of society might be a little surprised to see a group of college men hugging while sporting their Alpha-Alpha-Alpha t-shirt, right?  Why is not that a norm that is associated with fraternal organizations?

“Masculinity is a constant test – always up for grabs, always needing to be proved.” – Kimmel (2008)
            Fraternities were founded originally for brotherhood.  They were designed to offer camaraderie and help men make meaningful relationship with their college peers.  According to Yeung, Stombler, and Wharton (2010), “college fraternities construct their brotherhood through rituals, secrecy, and most important, an ideology that adopts a familiar metaphor by emphasizing brothers’ lifelong commitment to one another,” (p. 156).  However, Davis, LaPrad & Dixon (2010) describe that male bonding currently can be described as activity sharing: watching sports, working out, and avoiding emotional sharing.  How is this promoting brotherhood?  O’Neil & Crapser (2011) described 4 patterns of gender role conflict that men typically face, and one of which is restrictive affectionate behavior between and amongst men.  Similarly, according to Capraro (2010), recent research suggests that the typical male socialization patterns often employ shame to shape behaviors and attitudes.  Are men just shaming each other to get the results they want?  It reminds me of Jason Laker’s (2003) concept of “bad dogging” young men who are engaging in negative behaviors: we never come from a place of concern when we’re caught in the heat of the moment.  I think that a lot of this stems from masculinity overriding one’s sense of reflection.  Normative male alexithymia is defined as the inability for me to put feelings into words or be aware of them (Ludeman, 2011).  The fact that there is even a definition for men not being able to articulate their emotions says that masculinity definitely has something to do with this issue.    

“…Grant Thy wisdom to our leaders, and guide us in all our deliberations and transactions that the true spirit of brotherhood may be manifest in our every thought, word and deed.  Bless the brothers of our Bond wherever they may be, and deepen our love for each other, and quicken our sense of duty to Thee.
To Thee, our Lord and God, be all honor, praise and glory, for ever and ever.” – Excerpt from Lambda Chi Alpha Fraternity open ritual
Brotherhood events, initiation activities, and philanthropies could arguably be viewed as constantly supplemented with alcohol.  David Bogenberger was one such victim.  On November 2, 2012, the evening after his fraternity’s initiation ceremony, Bogenberger was found dead of cardiac arrhythmia brought on by alcohol intoxication (Rozek, 2013).  According to studies, 75% of fraternity members engage in heavy drinking as opposed to the 49% of unaffiliated male students (Kimmel, 2008).  Kimmel believes that initiations are “all about masculinity” (Kimmel, 2008).  We would like to think that true meaningful brotherhood exist on its own without the pressures of masculinity interfering or without alcohol being used, but can it really? Capraro (2010) suggests that men binge drink to fulfill one of two voids in their life: first to conform to traditional masculinity, and second to avoid being perceived as inadequate from other men and society.  The constant stress on being a powerful “manly man” to fraternity men could very well be driving the brotherhood activities and rituals they are partaking in.  But why?  
            We learn through life that one of the best ways to make a friend is to be a friend.  Let’s look at the fraternity new member process.  Immediately when the words “fraternity pledge” come to mind, most people could immediately let their minds go to a place darkly crowded with conceptions of hazing and brutal treatment.  According to a study done at the University of Maine, 73% of those in fraternities and sororities are reportedly hazed each year (Kimmel, 2008).  In Guyland, an interview is described regarding a hazing situation and a group of “pledges” at a Michigan State fraternity house:

“We’d line ‘em up at all hours, yell at them for a while, quiz ‘em on chapter history, lore, and make sure they memorized all the brothers’ names, hometowns, majors, and favorite beers.  Like who cares, really?  Dumb shit like that,” (Kimmel, 2008, p. 112). 
Greek organizations have unfortunate reputations of hazing their members, and what’s worse, the images we see portrayed in the media only continually highlight and exaggerate the percentages and extreme situations that come about.  So what causes the desire to haze a member of an organization?  Many studies have been conducted on college men, and much to do with violent, disruptive, or risky behavior surround the feeling of inadequacy in terms of power in society and subjective experiences.  Men do what they do to feel powerful. We see it all the time.  I hear the men on my campus refer to their new members as “pledges” – an outdated word and not in line with current National Interfraternity Council policy or verbage.  The term pledge just has an almost ridiculed undertone to it.  The very word makes me cringe. 
            From my eyes, I see the positives that fraternities do every single day for a living.  I see the exceptional student leaders on my campus taking on roles and plugging into other areas of campus.  I see them coming in my office talking about the issues their chapter faces and having genuine concern for the well-being and lifeblood of their organization.  They are focused on the operations and not always the brotherhood.  I believe this to be almost 99% due to fear of gender role conflict.   So my first instinct is always to ask, “How are your brothers?  What kinds of brotherhood activities have you done lately?”  Think about the power that a “Walk the Line” or “If You Really Knew Me” activity could bring to a group to change their dynamic.  It’s so easy to get washed up in the politics of an organization and the demands of societal expectations that you forget the true purpose of something. 
            The truth of it all is, it’s difficult to completely diagnose how masculinity impacts brotherhood in fraternities.  But as administrators, we can start to question practices that are longstanding and make the wheels turn in fraternity members’ heads.  Why do you need alcohol at initiation activities?  How is making new members memorize facts going to improve your relationship with them?  Why don’t your brotherhood activities consist of more team bonding and discussions as to how to improve your bonds?  Fraternities should be a safe place and a place for positive masculinity to thrive.  By raising the topics and facing the problem in an honest place of care, we can start to help fraternities mold their organizations to be the “brotherly” places they were intended to be.

This post was written by Mallory Stratton.  You can connect with Mallory at on Twitter @MalloryStratton.


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